I’m going to be severely disappointed if my marriage doesn’t end up like either of these two.
Gogglebox is life.
It was wonderful and sunny and the sky was clear.
I turned away from my window for two minutes to finish dressing for the weather and when I turned back everything was grey and it was tipping it down with rain.
The fuck Britain.
You say you’re going to call in half an hour yet know you have a medical condition that makes you tired/sleep a lot why not just call me at that moment when you know you’re awake! And don’t leave me waiting 2+ hours when I’m getting tired
I’m only wanting to know what time I’m going somewhere tomorrow but seeing as this persons picking me up I need confirmation!
Just text me a time- 4 digits and we can all go to bed!
It’s not really that big of a deal but seriously now I’m gonna have to wait for them to wake up, wait another 10 mins to regain consciousness enough to think all for a 30 second phone call…
on a scale from Matilda to Carrie how well do you handle having telekinesis and terrible parents
Kitty does not know what to do with the butterfly that landed on its paw…LOLOL
"Ermmm…what do I do with this???"
50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
HEY LOOK EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT 50 SHADES SERIES IN ONE
ooo, someone actually broke down the Safe Sane Consensual thing and how 50 Shades DOESN’T EVEN TOUCH IT WITH A 10 FOOT POLE.
I got so tired of explaining why what I liked was different from this piece of shit. Thank you.
This. All of this. Thank you for finally pointing all this out- the first thing I usually hear when telling people about my lifestyle is ‘oh like 50 shades??’ I can’t even imagine how many times I’ve had to scream no at these people and lecture them on what is wrong with these books and try and explain what D/s is really all about! It’s one of the reasons why this lifestyle is still so secret- because we all looks like freaks to those whose only like to kink is this book.
To the women who choose not to have kids, I have one thing to say: thank you.
You probably don’t hear it enough. In fact, you probably don’t hear it at all. What you do hear is an array of pro-childbearing responses, such as, “You’ll change your mind someday,” or,…
My great-great-grandmother’s portrait hung in the university up until the Revolution. By then, the truth of their romance had been reduced to a simple fairy tale. And, while Cinderella and her prince did live happily ever after, the point, gentlemen, is that they lived.
Used to watch this movie literally once a day for months! Had it on vhs and everything! Haha
Literally had a heart attack when she did that! It was sad but at least she stayed on her feet and finished her ‘collection’ with that olympic bronze!
When your overdraft usage fee pushes you over your overdraft again meaning next month you’ll have another overdraft usage fee…
The circle of life…
i used to work at an ice cream thing and people would come in with DQ coupons and i was like “this isnt dairy queen” and theyd get mad and ask to talk to my manager who also told them it wasnt dairy queen
This sums up everything you need to know…
Yep customer service op here- at a very large retail chain and the things I put up with on a daily basis…